Monday, March 04, 2013

SILVER LININGS PLAYBOOK hits hard and triumphs wildly for this bipolar viewer!

Silver Linings Playbook, Bradley Cooper, Jennifer Lawrence, bipolar disorder, movie, mental illnessLast night I finally saw Silver Linings Playbook, the movie that came out late last year with Bradley Cooper, Jennifer Lawrence, Robert De Niro and Chris Tucker. My girlfriend Kristen watched it with me. In retrospect this was not a movie that I could have watched alone and she really was the only person that I could have watched it with.

Silver Linings Playbook is a movie that everyone who has ever suffered from bipolar disorder should see. It is a movie that everyone who has ever had a bipolar person in their life should see. It is a movie that every possible kind of person that I know of, should see. It was not only the best movie that I've seen in a theater since The Artist last year, it is also the movie that I am finding myself wishing more and more could have been made long ago and one that I will absolutely be watching again and again and again.

This is the definitive film about mental illness for our generation. About what it is to have to live with it day after day after day. One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest depicted mental illness but that was for the most part a device examining what it means to be an individual against "the machine". Silver Linings Playbook honestly and brutally depicts what mental illness is: a disease that must be endured. By many, many people. By people like me.

(As an aside, Chris Tucker's character is like many who I have known during bouts in the mental hospital. But there is no way, no how that he could have gotten out like that once, much less twice. Trust me, I've tried...)

Pat - Bradley Cooper's character - in Silver Linings Playbook? That's me. So help me God, it really did feel like I was watching myself up on that screen at times (minus the garbage bag). There is so much about Silver Linings Playbook that resonates with me. Why? Because there was so much of myself that Pat goes through in this movie, it's not even funny. And after just one viewing I can't possibly count all the things that he and I have in common...

The hospitalizations. The meds (there is only ONE drug which Pat talks about having that I have never been on). The wife leaving. Being without a home and getting taken in by Mom and Dad. The restraining order to stay 500 feet away from your spouse's home and place of work. The late-night manic episodes. The late-night manic episodes (I meant to emphasize that). The law enforcement officers having to come to your house (several times). Thinking that you can go off your medication when you really can't. Believing that you can reconcile... maybe being obsessed about it... with your estranged spouse. Writing the letters. The reminders - like the one that played at Pat's wedding - which bring back the memories and the pain much MUCH harder than anyone without bipolar can begin to imagine. Having people in public watch you with manic depression and not caring a damn what they think. The horrible weight gain that the medication can cause and yes Seroquel did make me feel foggy and bloated (I went off of it in November of 2011 and have since lost more than 50 pounds). Wondering how the hell you can possibly have anything at all like a normal life.

Heck just as Pat does, I had something taped to the wall next to my bed in the hospital to serve as a source of encouragement. It wasn't "Excelsior" like what he did though. My first hospitalization was in the spring of 2000. At the time I drew the cartoon character The Tick reminding me that "You're not going crazy... You're going SANE in a crazy world!" I still have that drawing somewhere too.

Pat is a substitute history teacher. I have a history degree and have substitute taught. He has a very strange psychiatrist. I have a therapist and a psychiatrist (make whatever of that which you will). The entire neighborhood knows about Pat's mental illness. All two of this blog's readers know about my mental illness.

You wanna know something? I thought that Pat's struggle with bipolar was dead-on accurate. But I also found myself thinking "Why couldn't I have had it as easy as he does?"

Real mental illness is no motion picture. It's an unrelenting and unforgiving fact of life. Believe that if you believe nothing else that I'm writing here.

And it's weird, but true: the last time I was in a psychiatric hospital, in June of 2009, a counselor there told me that I was seeing the darkness but that God had to... had to... have a silver lining for me. Just as Pat talks about often.

But you wanna know what else about Silver Linings Playbook resonated with me? It's the love that Pat finds with Tiffany (Jennifer Lawrence, and I see now how she won that Oscar last week). Now to be sure, Kristen does not have a mental illness. But she is beautiful. And she is an amazing dancer. She has taught me how to dance as much to life's music as on the studio floor. How to look beyond my own past, my own failures. How to love and be loved. How to let go of things holding me down and to look forward to the future.

Some have written that Silver Linings Playbook is just "wishful thinking". That it's a story with too happy an ending. That it's a "storybook" ending even.

Silver Linings Playbook ends with our bipolar hero happy and optimistic, with his beautiful and talented dancer girlfriend in his arms.

Maybe some of you think that's not a very real ending to a story...

Chris Knight, Kristen Bradford


...but there are some of us who have our own Silver Linings Playbook. And it does end happily ever after!

Silver Linings Playbook is possibly the movie that in all the years I've had this blog, I would most want its readers to go and see for themselves. You will laugh and you will cry. You will wince with pain as you see what Pat and Tiffany and the people in their lives go through. And in the end, you will applaud. And I'll pretty much promise that you'll come out of the theater a better person for it.

13 comments :

Anonymous said...

Christopher you are one courageous and inspiring soul for opening up about your vulnerabilities. It can't be easy but, I wanted to thank you and let you know you are appreciated. I'm going to see Silver Linings Playbook this week after reading this.

You look so happy with Kristen as well!

Kari

Morgan Stone said...

"The hospitalizations. The meds (there is only ONE drug which Pat talks about having that I have never been on). The wife leaving. Being without a home and getting taken in by Mom and Dad. The restraining order to stay 500 feet away from your spouse's home and place of work. The late-night manic episodes. The late-night manic episodes (I meant to emphasize that). The law enforcement officers having to come to your house (several times). Thinking that you can go off your medication when you really can't. Believing that you can reconcile... maybe being obsessed about it... with your estranged spouse. Writing the letters. The reminders - like the one that played at Pat's wedding - which bring back the memories and the pain much MUCH harder than anyone without bipolar can begin to imagine. Having people in public watch you with manic depression and not caring a damn what they think. The horrible weight gain that the medication can cause and yes Seroquel did make me feel foggy and bloated (I went off of it in November of 2011 and have since lost more than 50 pounds). Wondering how the hell you can possibly have anything at all like a normal life.

I saw Silver Linings Playbook in January and thought of this blog and your fight against bipolar disorder. I was wondering if you had seen it and if you had anything in common with Cooper's character. That couldn't have been easy to write out all those things especially about your marriage getting ruined by bipolar. I'm gloat that God did give you that silver lining! I love that picture of you and Kristen! You both look so happy and blessed :)

Chris Knight said...

Morgan: you wrote that comment from a smartphone, didnt you? Don't worry I won't "gloat" about it :-P

There was much, much more that Pat went through in that movie that I have also experienced than I discussed. Obviously Pat's estrangement from Nicki was a major component of his bipolar experience, as happens to EVERYONE who loses a marriage because of the condition (and there are a LOT of people that's happened to, I'll be writing about that soon). I had to make note of that. As well as the manic episodes that keep a bipolar person from sleeping normal so many times, because the mind is feeling so invigorated and turned WAY up even when the body is sooo tired.

I'm not afraid or shy at all about such things. There were some others though brought up in the movie that for one reason or another, I didn't want to talk about being bipolar. At least, not at THIS present time. But hopefully soon...

I had an appointment with my counselor today and Silver Linings Playbook was a big part of our conversation. She has seen it as well and was very interested in what I as a bipolar individual thought about it. We both agree: it is easily THE most accurate depiction of mental illness that there's been in film in recent memory. When many people hear "manic episode" they think of outrageous behavior. In fact it's most often *normal* behaviors taken to outrageous extremes: shopping, sleeping, sex, hobbies, in my case it's often reading anything and everything, in unrealistic amounts or at unrealistic hours. When Pat is reading Hemingway at 3 in the morning and bugs his parents about it in their bedroom that early in the morning?

Okay, I've never done THAT... But I've come darn close :-P

Chris Knight said...

And to Kari and Morgan: Thanks!! :-)

l waters said...

Terrific and courage-filled review!

Anonymous said...

The best movie that came out last year. I laughed so hard but also felt for Pete with his bipolar, Tiffany with how she handled her grief, Pat's dad and his OCD.

Huh. 4 of the most lovable characters in 2012 film in one movie and they each have mental illness.

You're sort of lovable too Chris ;p

Anonymous said...

I'm counting Chris Tucker's character too. What did he have?

Chris Knight said...

I don't think the movie ever mentioned what Danny (Chris Tucker's character) had. Except that he kept having those legal problems, LOL!

~Melinda said...

Great review, Chris. I just finished the book this morning (yes, I still waited even though you told me there were no spoilers here, I had to be 100% sure! LOL).

Danny's condition is revealed in the book, along with MUCH more than I'm sure the movie covered. That's usually the case, though. You really, really MUST read it! Better yet, the audio version, because you get to hear the narrator in "Pat's" manic voice, depressed voice, etc.

Oh, I can not WAIT to see this movie now! I could identify with small bits of Pat's personality. Sadly, I've never been one to exercise to the extreme - drat! ;)

Anonymous said...

Chris,

Will you write sometime about how bipolar affected your first marriage? I know that's going to be hard but I lost a husband because I have bipolar 1. I think a lot of people are looking forward to what you would say about it.

Cynthia said...

Bipolar cost me my husband also: I have Bipolar Disorder 1 too.

It's the worst thing that can happen to a marriage outside of infidelity. Infidelity is a choice. Bipolar isn't.

Brent said...

Saw it last night. Ace review, Chris. And a great movie!

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